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Sex and sexuality is a large and controversial topic that affects every young woman in modern society… completely regardless of sexuality. Every woman needs to feel completely safe when it comes to sex… and most importantly needs to know that it is perfectly ok to say no and to know what the most effective way is of getting this message across! Also, every woman needs to feel comfortable and happy with their sexuality… being a lesbian or bisexual is ok and no woman should be judged or excluded based on their sexuality! Youth work also provides a good platform to consider what sexuality actually is, in its widest sense. This offers an opportunity to discuss lesbian, gay and bisexual sexuality but also promotes a broader perspective of sexuality, highlighting that everyone has a sexuality and that sexuality is not limited to who we have sex with/who we fancy. It is also a good opportunity to consider that sexuality may not be fixed through out life and that sexual behaviour may not always reflect sexual identity and vice versa. The meaning of “sex” can also be explored, drawing attention to the fact that sex can mean a variety of things, which may include but not necessarily be limited to vaginal intercourse. Considering different kinds of intimate behaviour can be also linked with discussions about pressure, pleasure and safer sex.
Activities:

· Create and use a quiz about safe sex for all women (This of course includes Trans,lesbian, bisexual and heterosexual women)!

· Do a role play with 2 people just about to have sex… look at assertiveness and how to be safe!

· Use Jo Adams’ sexuality flower (go directly to the website: www.sandyford.org)

· All About Sex

· Sex Wordsearch (answers) (answers to sex wordsearch)

· The Straight Questionnaire

· Facts Not Fiction Exercise

· The Clitoris factsheet – The Clitoris

· UK Youth Parliament young people’s presentation on sexual health recommendations in their local area (powerpoint presentation)

Challenging gender & sexual stereotypes

WHY?: Issues around masculinity, femininity, what makes a real man/women are still fairly ridged for young people. It also tends to relate heavily with assumed sexual orientation and therefore possible homophobic bullying. Therefore it is important to explore differences and highlight the inflexibility and inaccuracy of stereotypes.

· Agree/disagree of various statements such as women with short hair are lesbians, male hairdressers are gay, men that work in trades are real men etc.

· Word association -what descriptive words are associated with which gender? determined, strong, assertive, delicate, caring etc.
Viability and acceptance of LGBT as part of a variety of sexualities

WHY? To celebrate to the achievements of LGBT people as positive role models, and to highlight the stereotypes that surround sexual orientation.

IDEAS:

· Gain pictures of famous lesbian, gay & bisexual people- real and fictitious characters and straight people/characters in the media and ask young women to guess what sexual orientation they are. Include less obvious famous people and some straight or bisexual people that might be cast as stereotypically gay, and vice versa to highlight that sexuality cannot be determined by looking at someone or characteristics. Also include those who may play gay or straight characters but are not that sexuality/ sexual orientation in real life.

Myth blasting round sex & sexuality- hymen ones always tend 2 be interesting

WHY? There are still lots of miss information around puberty, sex and sexuality going around between young people, asking young women what they have heard gives the opportunity to give correct information and clear up any myths.

IDEAS:

· Brain storming exercises around things they have heard about sex, pregnancy and puberty and discussing what people think is true/untrue.

· Agree/disagree confidential question box- each young person puts in a question they are unsure about and all get read out using two sides of the room for agreeing/disagreeing to the statements, which are all then discussed.

Appropriate relationships, exploring safe & healthy relationships.

WHY? To get young women to think about the sorts of relationships they have with others, to explore what’s healthy and safe and what is less so.

IDEAS:

· Get young women to think about different sorts of relationships they have in their lives with different people, for example partners, friends, teachers, family, youth workers etc. Explore the differences in these relationships, are there things that would be appropriate in one relationship but not in another?

· Get young women to think about what things they look for in a partner. Look at positive and more negative traits, moving on to what is an unhealthy/ abusive relationship. You could get young people to draw round two people cut the people out and create two pictures of a healthy partner/unhealthy partner, using magazine cuttings, pictures, words, doodles etc.

Positive sexuality/experience, assertiveness, communication with your partner.

Downloads:
Likt – Sex and Relationships Booklet
Zimbabwe – Sex and Relationships Info

Famous LGBT people Pics
LGBT Quotes

1 Hour workshop on Gender, sexuality and gender bullying – download workshop – gender bullying_

Knowing your own body-

WHY? : Young women can still be quite unaware of their own bodies and how it works, causing confusion, embarrassment and worry. A lot of what young women don’t examine their own bodies thoroughly particularly their genitalia. Often then what young women hear about their genitalia are old negative ideas about their private parts being ugly, smelly, dirty etc. Needless to say this negatively affects young women in relation to exploring their potential for self-pleasure and also ability to be assertive about their wants and desires with partners. It is important for young women to be more confident about their bodies and how it functions and to dispel myths surrounding periods etc.

Useful resources:

Fpa activity resource “4 Boys, 4 Girls: Talking with young people about sex and relationships” P24 -name the parts plus menstrual cycle to be used along side the “periods: what you need to know” & “4 Girls” booklet.


Why young women have sex-

WHY? Young women have sex for a number of reasons aside from their own desire to, from peer pressure to attempting to improve self-esteem. It is therefore important to explore some of these issues and what positive reasons to have sex there might be.

IDEAS:

The “delay” training offers some good ideas for work with young people on delaying first sex, for example an exercise on thinking up 101 ways to show you love someone without having sex.
“Girl power- how far does it go?” Jo Adams 1997 Has some good exercises exploring sexual health and self esteem, including assertiveness and confidence in saying no when you wish to.

Other issues to explore

Sexual exploitation, prostitution, sex trafficking, sexual violence, the internet.
The internet, the use/effect of internet porn, safer surfing on the net.